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Answering Questions About Divorce and Remarriage

March 3, 2013

Answering Questions About Divorce and Remarriage

The issue of marriage, divorce, and remarriage is definitely relevant in our day. Some people have even described it as a “hot button topic.” A lot of emotions are attached to the subject, and whenever this is the case, it is difficult to get people to reason on a rational basis.

Human emotions will cause a person to disregard the teaching of the Bible.

It will also cause a person to excuse things that God will not overlook on the day of judgment. (Hebrews 13:4) Knowing how serious the subject is, let us consider the following questions and answers.

1. What is the reason or ground that God gives, that allows a person to divorce their mate and marry another person? In order to answer the question in a manner that pleases God, we must appeal to the sacred scriptures. Jesus said, “It was also said, ‘Whoever divorces his wife, let him give her a certificate of divorce.’ But I say to you that every one who divorces his wife, except on the ground of sexual immorality, causes her to commit adultery; and whoever marries a divorced woman commits adultery.” (Matthew 5:31-32) He also said, “And I say to you: whoever divorces his wife, except for sexual immorality, and marries another, commits adultery.” (Matthew 19:9) Therefore, we must conclude that the only reason God gives for a person to divorce his mate and marry another is sexual immorality. Sexual immorality refers to an illicit sex act.

2. May two people who are married to each other divorce or separate when there is no sexual immorality, as long as they do not marry anyone else? No. God’s word does not allow separating or divorcing at will. Jesus said, “What therefore God has joined together, let no one separate.” (Matthew 19:6) Paul said, “To the married I give this command (not I, but the Lord): A wife must not separate from her husband. But if she does, she must remain unmarried or else be reconciled to her husband. And a husband must not divorce his wife.” (1 Corinthians 7:10-11) Someone may ask, “Doesn’t Paul say, ‘But if she does … ‘ showing that she has permission to separate from her husband?” Do you really believe Paul would say, “A wife must not separate,” (verse 10), then say as some allege “She may separate?” So, what does Paul mean by the phrase “But if she does … ?” It could be that some would separate anyway, and if they do so, they must remain unmarried or be reconciled!

3. If two unbelievers are married to one another, and if their marriage is “adulterous” because they have no right to be married; if they are immersed may they remain married since a person’s sins are forgiven when they are immersed into Christ? No. If they are in a marriage that constitutes adultery before they are immersed, they are in adultery after they are immersed because the adulterous relationship has not changed. A person must repent before they obey the gospel of Christ. (Acts 2:38)

Obeying the gospel does not remove a person from an unacceptable marriage; they must remove themselves from such!

Two men who are married to one another cannot remain in that relationship; neither can a man and a woman remain married when God says they have no right to each other. (Mark 6:17-18; Luke 16:18; 1 Corinthians 6:9-11; Revelation 21:8)

The questions I am seeking to answer are serious, and the consequences of rejecting Yahweh’s word on this important subject are eternal. (John 12:48-50) I have several more questions to answer and I beg you to believe and accept the truth regarding this issue.

Ron Daly

For more teaching on crucial issues visit the following blogs:
www.exegeticalessays.blogspot.com
www.biblicallanguagesresearch.blogspot.com
www.dalysnttranslationproject.blogspot.com

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Lord, Excuse My Conduct But…

February 17, 2013

“Lord, Excuse My Conduct But… “

When people love the Lord, they do the best they can to do the right thing, and when they fail, they do not make excuses or try to cover up or ignore their sin; they repent and beg God for mercy and forgiveness.

Nevertheless, there are many people who are stubborn.

They know what God’s word teaches, but they allow the devil to influence them to do things their own way. They stiffen their necks and deliberately, with full knowledge, commit sin and disrespect God. A person should never commit presumptuous sins. David warned against this: “Also keep your servant back from presumptuous sins; do not let them have dominion over me.” (Psalm 19:13) Presumptuous sins are acts of transgression that result from arrogance or pride. In effect a person says, “Lord, excuse my conduct, but I have to do what I have to do.” By such a statement, they mean they are going to take matters into their own hands no matter what God says about it!

One of the most prevalent areas in which this attitude manifests
itself is in discussions of marriage, divorce, and remarriage. Human emotions get involved and people devise all kinds of excuses not to do what the Bible clearly teaches. Many people believe that when they marry, if they have financial, attitudinal, and domestic problems, that they can separate or divorce and everything will be alright. Not so! God’s word says, “Therefore what God has joined together, let man not separate.. “ (Matthew 19:6) Paul told the Corinthians, “To the married I give this charge (not I but the Lord); the wife should not separate from her husband (but if she does, she should remain unmarried or else be reconciled to her husband), and the husband should not divorce his wife.”  (l Corinthians 7:10-11) A man and woman who are in a marriage that is acceptable to God, should not separate from each other! God expects them to stay together unless one has committed adultery, then the innocent spouse may divorce the one who committed adultery. (Matthew 19:9)

Sometimes it is said, “But Paul said it’s okay to separate but you must remain unmarried or be reconciled.”

First, Paul did not say “it’s okay to separate.” He said, “The wife should not separate from her husband.”

The statement that is in parentheses in verse 11 is not giving permission to violate the previous statement in verse 10. It simply recognizes the fact that in spite of what the apostle enjoins, some may choose another course of action and separate anyway. He says, if they do so, they have two alternatives; remain unmarried or else be reconciled! One of the problems into which people get themselves is this: when they separate from a mate, they may already have it in their hearts to marry again. If they do so, they will remain in a state of adultery as long as they are in a forbidden marriage. (Mark 10:10-11) Secondly, when a husband and wife separate from each other they put themselves in the potentially horrible position of losing self control, and committing sexual sin with someone to whom they are not married. (1 Corinthians 7:2-5) But there will always be people who say, “Lord, excuse my conduct but I have to think about my own happiness.” Marriage is a serious relationship. People must stop separating and divorcing at will. When they do so, they are violating God’s will and there are consequences that will be paid on the day of judgment! The Lord will not excuse the conduct of those who deliberately violate his will.

Ron Daly

For more teaching on crucial issues visit the following blogs:

www.exegeticalessays.blogspot.com

www.biblicallanguagesresearch.blogspot.com

www.dalysnttranslationproject.blogspot.com

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Marriage and Divorce Hollywood Style

Friday, January 7, 2011

Marriage and Divorce Hollywood Style

In many ways Hollywood sets the standard of conduct for this nation’s citizenry on a social, moral, political and religious scale. Many believe it is reasonable to assert that if the rich and famous are doing it, then it must be within proper bounds. If the nation’s icons are following a certain course of action it must have heaven’s stamp of approval. Others just don’t seem to care; like it or not they intend to do things their way.

It is a known fact that many of the legendary actors, sports figures, movie directors and politicians have been married and divorced multiple times, and for no better reasons than “I like it this way.” Or, “Our differences were irreconcilable and we deemed it best to file for divorce and look for someone who could make us happy.”The main problem with their view of marriage and divorce is: it violates the teaching of sacred scripture and as a result God is not pleased with their condition.

Jesus taught, “But I say to you that every one who divorces his wife, except on the ground of sexual immorality, makes her an adulteress, and whoever marries a divorced woman commits adultery.” (Mat. 5:32) Divorces for “irreconcilable differences,” “we just couldn’t get along,” “we needed to take leave from one another,” “we believe we will be happier being apart,” etc. are not acceptable to the great God of heaven. The person who divorces his wife “except on the ground of sexual immorality makes her an adulteress” (by creating a circumstance wherein she seeks another relationship, albeit unlawful before God). Consequently another party is “hooked” into a sinful union by marrying a woman who has been divorced. It becomes a tangled web of sin that is not easily untangled due to human emotions, ignorance, deceit, and self-interests.

Jesus also said, “And I say to you: whoever divorces his wife, except for sexual immorality, and marries another, commits adultery.” (Mat. 19:9) No one has the right to divorce his wife unless the wife has committed adultery.
The person who does so sins and if he marries another person, he commits adultery. Divorce because of financial problems, emotional problems, in-law problems, work related problems, and a myriad of other things will not satisfy the requirements of God’s will. God’s will, not the human will must have priority.

Just because people of wealth, prominence, and earthly fame   violate the teaching of God’s word by indiscriminately marrying and divorcing does not make it right and their actions will not go unnoticed by the all-seeing God.

God intends for marriage to be a permanent relationship between one man and one woman (Mat. 19:4-6), with the one exception already noted. (Mark 10:11; Luke 16:18) No amount of money, prestige, political clout, human sympathy, or political correctness will change what Almighty God has decreed. God’s will has been established in heaven. (1 Pet. 1:24-25) The teaching of scripture, not Hollywood should set the standard for human conduct.

May all humanity know that God will have the last word, and King Jesus, the Son of Yahweh will judge mankind according to the things done in the body whether good or evil. (Jno 5:28-29; Acts 17:30-31; 2 Cor. 5:10-11)
Let us return to the word of God and be faithful regardless of the costs.

RD

Copyright 2011

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