February 17, 2013
“Lord, Excuse My Conduct But… “
When people love the Lord, they do the best they can to do the right thing, and when they fail, they do not make excuses or try to cover up or ignore their sin; they repent and beg God for mercy and forgiveness.
Nevertheless, there are many people who are stubborn.
They know what God’s word teaches, but they allow the devil to influence them to do things their own way. They stiffen their necks and deliberately, with full knowledge, commit sin and disrespect God. A person should never commit presumptuous sins. David warned against this: “Also keep your servant back from presumptuous sins; do not let them have dominion over me.” (Psalm 19:13) Presumptuous sins are acts of transgression that result from arrogance or pride. In effect a person says, “Lord, excuse my conduct, but I have to do what I have to do.” By such a statement, they mean they are going to take matters into their own hands no matter what God says about it!
One of the most prevalent areas in which this attitude manifests
itself is in discussions of marriage, divorce, and remarriage. Human emotions get involved and people devise all kinds of excuses not to do what the Bible clearly teaches. Many people believe that when they marry, if they have financial, attitudinal, and domestic problems, that they can separate or divorce and everything will be alright. Not so! God’s word says, “Therefore what God has joined together, let man not separate.. “ (Matthew 19:6) Paul told the Corinthians, “To the married I give this charge (not I but the Lord); the wife should not separate from her husband (but if she does, she should remain unmarried or else be reconciled to her husband), and the husband should not divorce his wife.” (l Corinthians 7:10-11) A man and woman who are in a marriage that is acceptable to God, should not separate from each other! God expects them to stay together unless one has committed adultery, then the innocent spouse may divorce the one who committed adultery. (Matthew 19:9)
Sometimes it is said, “But Paul said it’s okay to separate but you must remain unmarried or be reconciled.”
First, Paul did not say “it’s okay to separate.” He said, “The wife should not separate from her husband.”
The statement that is in parentheses in verse 11 is not giving permission to violate the previous statement in verse 10. It simply recognizes the fact that in spite of what the apostle enjoins, some may choose another course of action and separate anyway. He says, if they do so, they have two alternatives; remain unmarried or else be reconciled! One of the problems into which people get themselves is this: when they separate from a mate, they may already have it in their hearts to marry again. If they do so, they will remain in a state of adultery as long as they are in a forbidden marriage. (Mark 10:10-11) Secondly, when a husband and wife separate from each other they put themselves in the potentially horrible position of losing self control, and committing sexual sin with someone to whom they are not married. (1 Corinthians 7:2-5) But there will always be people who say, “Lord, excuse my conduct but I have to think about my own happiness.” Marriage is a serious relationship. People must stop separating and divorcing at will. When they do so, they are violating God’s will and there are consequences that will be paid on the day of judgment! The Lord will not excuse the conduct of those who deliberately violate his will.
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